My 3 Go-To Energy Protection Methods For Highly Sensitive Women

Today we’re going over 3 energy protection methods specifically for highly sensitive women who want to decrease their energy leaks.

 

These are all methods I explain and help you implement in depth in The Roadmap To Self-Grounding Program, which is a part of The CalmWithDom Academy.

 

If you’re looking to integrate this wisdom in your own life to overcome your overwhelm, I highly recommend you join me in The Roadmap To Self-Grounding Program to finally get grounded in your sensitivity. You got this!

 

Alright, here are the best energy protection methods for highly sensitive women!

 

Energy Protection Ultimately Looks Like Practicing Detachment And Discernment

What this entire blog post and podcast episode (which you can listen to here) educates on is that practicing detachment and discernment is the best way for highly sensitive women to protect their energy.

 

Now, detachment and discernment are two different things – you must discern when it’s appropriate for you to healthily detach. To understand healthy detachment a bit more, here are some resources I recommend you check out now:

 

Podcast Episode: What Is Healthy Detachment? And Other Q’s

Blog Post: How To Practice Emotional Detachment For Your Mental Health

 

Now I’ll explain my methodology in detail for how I do both at the same time. The first step is to become a mirror.

 

Energy Protection Method #1:

Become A Mirror

In the spiritual space, you may have heard the term “mirroring,”  which usually looks like connecting with someone whose life tends to mirror yours. You might experience similar events, be at similar stages in life despite living very different lives, and ultimately have a lot of random but consistent synchronicities.

 

That’s what two people ‘mirroring’ each other can look like – to keep it simple. In case you’ve heard of this term, I don’t want you to confuse these two ideas.

 

Becoming a mirror is not the same as mirroring someone at all. 

 

This is a method you can use to embody healthy detachment in everyday situations. It’s big for helping you process your experiences more effectively without absorbing others’ emotions (or getting consumed by your own).

 

How do you do this? By visualizing yourself as a literal, full-length mirror in front of someone (or a group of people) when you’re interacting with others. 

 

Now, that might sound silly – but what you’re doing is changing how you’re perceiving your current situation in a matter of seconds of feeling potentially very overwhelming stimulation.

 

When you visualize yourself as a mirror, you’re also visualizing the person talking at you talking to their own reflection instead. This is a powerful yet simple way to detach when someone is taking their day out at you.

 

It’s very human of us to take things personally when we should not. In high-stress situations at work, at home, and within my relationships, I’ve had people project on me and my highly sensitive self would eat it up.

 

Oh my gosh, and working in customer service? Forget about it. As an HSP, you are gathering information all the time and making decisions. It’s a lot, and the last thing we need to waste our energy on is taking to heart the actions and words of others who are projecting.

 

This doesn’t absolve them of their behavior. This isn’t to diminish your emotions. It just puts you in a position where you can safely detach, use discernment, and reassert your boundaries if necessary without having to lose several nights’ worth of sleep over one interaction.

 

Meaning, any sort of gaslighting you’re doing to yourself about your need for rest and recovery has to cease. I wouldn’t even recommend this practice if you still think you’re just weaker than others, or that you don’t need to recuperate and rest more than others.

 

If you are not currently working on your mindset, please do not expect any of these methods to provide relief. Mindset work is key – and if you need guidance, I recommend getting your free downloadable Emotional Intelligence Self Reflection workbook.

 

This is a great resource that helps you shift your mindset to a state of calm and neutrality through emotional intelligence practices when you’re dealing with overwhelm of any kind. It’s simple, grounding, and super effective!

 

Delicious Energy Protection Method #2:

Allow Misunderstandings In Your Connections

You’ve got to practice permitting people to misunderstand you.

 

When I first heard of this concept, it felt refreshing almost immediately. I was that person who was so anxious and guarded around others at work and school (a.k.a. anything that was specifically performance-based** which is a highly sensitive attribute!

 

I wasn’t aware of that at the time because I never consciously thought about getting the approval of others. All I knew was that I didn’t want to be seen for fear of judgment.

 

I speak on how this manifested at work in-depth on the CalmWithDom podcast episode named after this article  (which you can play and listen to at the bottom of the page!) if you’re curious to hear specific examples of this attribute.

 

Ultimately,  I simply wanted people to understand me because being misunderstood made me anxious and self-conscious.

 

As naive as that may sound, I bring this up to say, who doesn’t feel that way sometimes?! This isn’t solely a highly sensitive experience. However, non-HSPs can last way longer in that state of anxiety than you or I could.

 

So to put this method into practice,  I simply reminded myself, “Allow them to misunderstand.” 

 

These words were enough for me. You could tell yourself, “They don’t care, you’re fine.” Whatever words help you the most, use ’em.

 

Whenever I remind myself that people don’t need to be mind-readers around me, and people don’t need to understand all my little mannerisms, the anxiety and the ruminating thoughts melt away.

 

I gave everyone around me full permission to not understand me wholeheartedly and unconsciously, and it took a huge burden off of my shoulders.

 

By not wasting energy worried about other people’s perceptions of you, you can tap into your energy authentically. You can feel your feelings and express yourself freely, which is what your energy wants. 

 

Your energy wanted to be exerted and replenished harmoniously. When you overexert from a place of fear and do not intentionally replenish, you’re left overstimulated by everything and ungrounded in yourself. 

 

That’s why it is so important to allow misunderstandings within your connections. That’s how you protect your energy.

 

Last But Not Least – Invest In & Connect With Your Energy Often

Learn any new craft, skill, or subject matter. Do something new and exciting, or old and nostalgic. With loved ones, close friends, or in your own company.

 

Put it on your calendar and do it regularly. This isn’t just for the sake of self-care and replenishment, but also for getting your energy accustomed to being spent joyfully.

 

It’s easy to slip into autopilot between all of your responsibilities: whether you work, raise children, are a caretaker of some kind, are in school or work on personal projects, are there for friends and family consistently, or doing it all!

 

There are just so many ways we can fall into the trap of running in a circle that requires more from us than it gives us in return.

 

When you’re on autopilot, it usually means life’s moving at a pace you’re not comfortable with – whether it’s too fast or too slow. If thinking about breaking out of that cycle makes you immediately fear that life is going to fall apart or you’re going to fall behind in some way – then you’re playing a dangerous game with your energy.

 

Because HSP requires processing time. We’re deep processors, deep reflectors, and we have these innate skills that play into how we make decisions. If we’re not processing comfortably and giving ourselves the chance to refuel, we’re going to burn out. 

 

And when we burn out we shut down, our energy leaks heighten, we feel like we’re malfunctioning and the problem. Then those cognitive distortions come out, those pesky thoughts we’re trying to manage and overcome.

 

So spending your time doing replenishing and refueling activities will keep your energy invested in you, right? 

 

This is how I invest in my energy, by regularly doing my yoga, by writing, by learning languages – that’s a really fun way for me to use my brain – and by meditation. 

 

Which goes into how I connect with my energy. I meditate! Now, don’t tune me out, pay attention friends, my fellow sensitive souls, this does not have to be difficult. 

 

I need you to figure out your meditation practice because this is not difficult and can be integrated into your life.

I meditate for 30 seconds sometimes in the back of an uber. I meditate between conversations. 

 

I speak with one person, afterwards, I connect to my breath and clear my mind, and come back to reality before I strike up conversation with another person. That’s how flexible my meditation practice is and how it caters to my needs. I need you to find what works for you. 

 

If you want to invest in a meditation guru and learn the proper techniques for meditation, do that. If you like guided meditations, do that. If you like to envision beautiful places in your mind, go ahead. If you prefer connecting to your breath, shoot – me too! It’s how I start almost every meditation. 

 

Once I laser-focus on my breath, before I know it 10 minutes have passed. Meditation can look like anything, it can happen anywhere. The more often you meditate, for what feels like no reason at all, you’re going to start feeling extremely self-assured and grounded as a person. 

 

When life gets busy, you let it. You understand your mind doesn’t have to look as busy as your world does. And when you become that grounded in self, your sensitivity only serves you. It no longer hinders you, it only serves you, I promise you that. 

 

Recap & Takeaways

So to recap, the 3 Go-To Methods to protect your energy as a highly sensitive, highly intuitive woman is through detachment and discernment by

 

1. Becoming A Mirror,

2. Allowing Others To Misunderstand You, and

3. Investing In And Connecting With Your Energy Often.

 

Now there are many more methods I get into within the Roadmap To Self-Grounding Suite like the different ways to protect your energy against different kinds of energy vampires, as well as different ways to connect with your energy more intimately and through shadow work. 

 

I strongly believe and teach my clients that to effectively protect your energy, you’ve got to practice shadow work and to effectively practice shadow work, you’ve got to protect your energy. 

 

That’s what this course suite helps you do; it guides you through implementing these methods every day so you remain grounded in yourself, which decreases your energy leaks and helps you meet your own needs. When you meet your own needs, all of your relationships benefit. 

 

I’ll cut myself short so these methods can sink in and you can implement them. Become a mirror, allow others to misunderstand you, and always invest in and connect with your energy, okay? 

 

From my sensitive soul to yours, I’ll see you next week!